We all have those moments. Then those moments turn into hours that turn into days that then turn into our jobs and a general description of our lives. They are moments of frustration that take on the form of some kind of hyper contagious virus that seems to consume us before we have time to react much less find the cure. We end up deciding there are two kinds of people in the world. People who admit to having times of frustration and liars.
Am I making more of this than it really deserves? Could the Son of God ever become frustrated? When confronted by a desperate father whose son could not be cured by the disciples of Jesus, the Master himself responds with a rhetorical question, "How long?" When he meets cruel legalism in a synagogue, he grows angry over the hard hearts of those who should have understood compassion best. When he faces the blasphemous use of his Father's House of Prayer for a marketplace, his frustration becomes the motivation for a serious housecleaning!
Frustration is real. Like so many of our emotions, however, its cause is completely within our control. Just like no one can make you angry. You become angry as a decisive response to a situation. It is a decision you make on your own based upon your value system of right and wrong, good and evil, or fair and unfair. You become frustrated because of a situation that goes against your expectations at a time when your desires are important enough for you to generate a most uncomfortable emotional response. Since you cannot hold it in, it is revealed as some level of frustration. What you do with that emotion is what is seen as a positive or negative reaction.
The recorded events of Jesus' frustration always became teaching moments for those who had eyes to see and ears to hear. We would do well to make our moments of frustration times of learning as well. This might be as individuals in daily life, as churches seeking to be salt and light and yeast in our communities, or as associations bringing a cluster of churches together to accomplish a task greater than any one church could complete alone. In all these cases there are people involved. That is a recipe for frustration.
Frustration springs from unfulfilled expectations. Good buddy Webster used a simple one-word synonym, "block". That says well what we feel when our efforts do not produce the expected results. We feel blocked. It's bad enough when we can provide a good reason for hitting the wall. It is pure frustration when we cannot justify our failure to attain our goals.
Frustration can be just as real in a local church setting and in the midst of associational work. We set goals. We gather resources. We organize to give ourselves the best chance of success. Then the block appears. Not only can we not justify that hindrance, the hindrance is counter to what we believe is our purpose and prevents us from accomplishing a higher good. That's when we start calling people terrible names and accusing them of opposing the will of God.
Yet if we listen to the frustration of Jesus we can see that the situation need not be all negative. Meeting those blocks can make us aware that a moment of teaching needs to occur. In those moments Jesus taught on faith. He taught concerning the compassion of the heavenly Father. He taught about the nature of the Kingdom of God.
When we become frustrated with our work or relationships with others, perhaps we should pause for a moment and decide wherein the problem lies. Are our expectations out of line with the will of God? That is not a problem Jesus had, only his listeners. What do we need to change that would lessen the frustration? What are the expectations of others involved in the situation? Are they proving to be a hindrance through ignorance or intent? Ignorance can be cured with patience. Stubbornness needs the help of the Holy Spirit.
When an association does not seem to be accomplishing the work of the Kingdom of God as it should, frustration appears, but what is its cause? Do churches need to learn? Provide the training. Are churches being resistant to the movement of the Kingdom of God? Then perhaps only the Holy Spirit can provide the answer. Neither in our personal lives nor in our work with God's people can we assume that our frustration is always due to another's intentional effort to thwart us. It may well be that we are the ones who need to learn or adjust our expectations.
