See Me!

An episode in the British mystery series “Midsomer Murders” has an elderly character make the comment in so many words, “You know what the really terrible thing is about growing old? You become invisible.”

Many times in the Bible study I lead each week I have commented about the importance of the word “remember”. You need only look at how many places, buildings, pieces of furniture in churches, and the headstones in cemeteries carry a name to realize how important it is to us humans to be remembered, in some sense not to become invisible.

We call the shy ones “wallflowers”. We use other words such as introverted or backward. The result is often the same. The person becomes overlooked, and if it happens enough, they become invisible.

An elderly person is not as productive as they once were. Their conversations often turn more to the subjects of how they have changed or the challenges they face or the loved ones and friends they have lost than to things of the future or hopes or dreams. The pains and regrets seem to outnumber anything positive in their lives. No one wants to listen to their stories. They are avoided. They become invisible.

They don’t have to become invisible. They can be acknowledged for who they are, valuable human beings with much yet to contribute to the society they helped build. Material productivity may be lost for the main part. One of the great losses of humanity is the lack of importance we should place on simple human interaction and relational enrichment.

Those whom we have allowed to become invisible can still contribute to their society in ways of great value if shown how and given the opportunity. In Japan Living National Treasures are individuals or groups who have earned the right through many years of developing skills to be considered living repositories of these skills. In the same way our eldest may be considered repositories of wisdom and history.

Though in vain I have looked for it, as a high school student I read a short story in a collection of science fiction pieces entitled “The Time Machine”. It was not a typical sci-fi piece as much as it was about the ability of imagination to make valuable what the world has pushed aside. In summary it was the story of a young boy who bragged to his friends that he had a time machine at his house.

When challenged to reveal his time machine, he took his friends to his home and introduced them to his grandfather. As the elderly gentleman told stories of his childhood, his young audience was transported back to a time found only in history books and seen as exhibits in museums. He was indeed a time machine just as surely as were the men I heard relate their personal experience in the great San Francisco fire of 1906 or tales of firing cannons in World War I before they themselves became a part of history.

We will discover something precious if we are willing to stop our mad race with time and still the chaotic noise of the world around us. All we need to do is adjust our lives and give that most precious of gifts, our attention, and we will find ourselves in the presence of living treasures. These individuals or small groups will discover through us they are neither forgotten nor invisible.

Leviticus 19:32 “You shall rise up before the grayheaded and honor the aged, and you shall revere your God; I am the Lord.” (NASB)

Handling Being Second

The story is told that years ago a car race was held between a Russian and an American. These were the only two cars involved. The end result would be a first place and a second place finish. How that sounded depended upon the reporter. The American won and was announced as the winner with the Russian coming in second. From a different perspective another newspaper account reported that the Russian had come in second and the American next to last. Both were true, but the feelings with which you were left were considerably different.

Perspective can make a tremendous difference in the way you handle coming in second, or next to last, or behind a crowd of one. Sometimes we need to be assured that coming in second is okay. You don't have to be first to feel good about your effort. Coming in second in a race of two should be as positive as coming in second in a race of a thousand. Yet we often find it hard to accept the fact that we are not the best, not the first to finish the race, that our efforts have not surpassed those of a multitude. We will not come in first every time. Somewhere we have to learn to accept the position of second place.

The crown prince plays second fiddle to the king. The vice president has to wait his turn behind the president. The second son has to wait for the first born to choose the preferred inheritance. There is an actor or actress, an understudy, that is always waiting in the wings just in case they are needed if the lead is unable to perform. The first one to the ferry gets on and others have to hope there is still space.

Is being second any worse than being third or fifth or tenth? Do we see the only possible option as being first? Do we consider everything else as the equivalent of losing, and who wants to be a loser? Ultimately it does come down to a matter of perspective. Not coming in first leaves you a loser, or being second to the best. The position is the same, but there is a world of difference in your perspective of yourself.

In the New Testament a man once made the statement with pride that, "He must increase, but I must decrease." (John 3:30) He was John the Baptizer and he was speaking of Jesus the Messiah. John knew from the beginning of his ministry that he was to play a secondary role. The One who was to come after him was to have the preeminent position. John carried out his responsibility without regret or envy. He came first but he was to become second.

The number two position is the support position. You back up the person in front of you in case they need help. Yet you are not recognized unless needed. Your name is not listed with the credits beside the star. You have to know all the lines and be ready to step in on a moment's notice, but the glory goes to the name at the top of the showbill. The show can go on with confidence because you were waiting in the shadows.

The Apostle Paul made a big deal out of being content in a secondary position in his letter to the Roman church, chapter 12. Three times he mentions the need to keep ourselves in proper perspective as we consider our relationship with others. Don't think more highly of yourself than you should. Outdo one another in showing honor to others. Never be conceited (vv. 3, 10, 16). In our relationships with others, we honor our relationship with God by lifting others above ourselves.

There is no better place to do this than in the family of God. In this context we reveal the workings of a heavenly family that is operating on earth. All members are brothers and sisters of Christ and of each other. Each member exists to promote the welfare of others and help them fulfill their spiritual potential as a child of God. Promotion of others can only occur when self takes second place.

The same must be said of associational work among churches. The association must come second. Its priorities must come second. Its demand upon the time and resources of the individual churches must come second behind the priority of the local church in fulfilling its divine calling from its Creator and Lord. The Church is a divine creation coming into existence at Pentecost (Acts 2). The association of churches has been created by man to assist the local churches fulfill their Great Commission (Matthew 28). That means the association will often have to make do with less. Its schedule will be at the mercy of local church calendars. Its leadership will be called upon to give their priority time to the local church and not to the association.

I can live with being second as an associational missionary when I know the winner, the one taking first place, is bringing the greatest glory to God and our Lord Jesus Christ. When you are second behind the best, there is no shame.